Monday, March 24, 2014

Circle of moms

There's this culture today. One that I have grown to despise. It's made every aspect of life near unbearable.

The constant comparisons. The instant fighting. The constant battles.

This culture where competition is everything. Everyone is battling to be the best...or the least bad.

To be the best friend. The best sibling. The best wife. The best house keeper. The best mom.

The best mom.

Let that sink in. We are constantly finding ourselves in a race to be the best mom.

We, as women, have this constant pressure on us to have babies. Then once we get pregnant, there are a million new pressures placed on us (either my us, others or a combination of the two). Let's keep going, then we have the baby and everyone has an opinion on what you should do or shouldn't do. Then there's the I you do x, y, or z, you're gonna cause one of countless issues.

What is the point of it all? Why can't we lay our own opinions aside and just be there for each other? To listen to another mom talk through her struggles and not try to fix it all or offer advice.

Moms make the choice that best fit their baby. The ones that work for their family. They know what has and hasn't worked in their world.

Why can't we just put our opinions aside and simply say, "I know it's hard. I know you're doing what you need to for your family. I am here to listen when you need it. No judgements, no solutions, just love and support."

Mom's it doesn't have to be this way. We are all doing the best we can. Can we lay the battles aside and just support each other already?

The secret is, we are already the best mom we can be for our kids. For one simple fact, we were the one chosen to be mom of our child(ren).

1 comment:

  1. "Accept children the way we accept trees—with gratitude, because they are a blessing—but do not have expectations or desires. You don’t expect trees to change, you love them as they are, where they are and how they are."
    Isabel Allende
    We could all use a little more love and support. Here's to a world where that is both what we give and receive!

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